Pre-Marital Counseling…Is It Worth It?

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Counseling in general may be a touchy subject for some, but if you know me, you know I live to ruffle a few feathers. After all, I’m raw and real. It has never concerned me what makes people uncomfortable. It’s the quickest way to get your point across and in return. Today, I’m going to share my primary experience with pre-marital counseling after our first session!

For starters, pre-marital counseling is an idea that Keshaun had, but I ended up agreeing with. What it pretty much boils down to is knowing what the heck you’re getting into before you get into it. I actually utilized counseling in university and it helped tremendously with my success and maintaining my high GPA. Why not attend pre-marital counseling for some weeks if it could aid in our marriage being a success?

Having been to some counseling sessions before, I knew what to expect, but then again, I really didn’t. Let me be the first to tell you to not be intimidated. Just be yourself! I know that’s easy to say for someone who’s used to speaking her mind, no matter to whom it is, but I promise you, there’s nothing to be afraid of or fear! After all, you are in there with your partner, and the counselor does not know either of you!

For me, I have years of experience of people not listening to me, not just where my partner is concerned either. Having a 3rd unbiased ear of listening helps a lot. You are able to divulge your deepest thoughts and share your deepest feelings to someone else, while your partner just has to sit and listen. If you have problems listening to each other in your relationship amongst the 2 of you, pre-marital counseling may be the perfect solution for you guys!

When I say our 1st session was super helpful, it really was. We were able to discuss our problems with each other, with someone else. That in turn, helped us to listen to each other and understand each other better, having the counselor explain our feelings and concerns in ways that we probably couldn’t have to each other. We were able to openly discuss what we liked and disliked without offending each other and it was a very calm environment. Can’t say the same about other relationships, but in ours, we already have a level of respect going into this. Though we may rarely agree, there are no F-bombs thrown, items tossed or screaming involved. At the end of the day, either we understand each other, or we don’t. I’m personally not stressing over anything that I can’t change anyway. After all, you’re in charge of your own health, not your partner. Remember that and you beauties will be just fine!

At the end of our session, we were given homework. I’ll just go on and tell you what the assignment was, since it’s pretty general across the board in relationships. We were asked to make a list of things we needed each other for. Though I’m pretty blunt with most things, one thing I sometimes struggle with is expressing my feelings. I am much better at writing them. Allowing us both to make this list will help our strong bond become even stronger, being able to communicate better!

In conclusion, I highly recommend pre-marital counseling. Within 1 session, we’ve already seen a difference in how we respond to each other, and better yet, how we listen to each other. Though God is the head of our relationship and my life, God is not going to hold your hand through each step without you putting in the work to make it work…fact.

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